WHY DO MARRIAGES CRASH? (Part 2) By Reagan Ufomba

Reagan Ufomba
 Written by Reagan Ufomba

In part 1 of this topic, we talked about such ancillary issues as lies, hate, infidelity, battering, infertility, spiritual problems etc etc as being contributory to several marriage failures.

That we call them ancillary does not in any way diminish the grievous nature of the offences. However, it remains my conviction that a couple in love must devise ways and means of resolving their marital issues.

In my over 53 years on earth, I have seen marriages of all shapes and sizes crash. I have seen couples fight on their wedding days; I have seen 7 day old marriages fail; I have seen couples take to their heels while the church bell toll in vain; I have seen beautifully dressed couple say "I don't" when they should be saying "I do"; I have seen marriages that are worse than all the world wars put together. I have also seen very happy and thriving marriages.

What then are the root causes ?
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I will attempt an enumeration of some of the fundamental factors that make or mar marriages. They include:
1. God's role and position in your marriage
2. Cultural factors
3. Communication in marriage
4. Freedom in marriage
5. Commitment in marriage
6. Sex in marriage
7. Occupational hazards

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Before going further, let's see what the Bible says about the institution of marriage:
"Wives be subject to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself it's saviour. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also subject in everything to their husbands.
Husbands love your wives as Christ love the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to him in splendour, without spot, or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish......He who loves his wife loves his own body......for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery. "

To all Christians this is the grundnorm. The understanding and strict adherence to this biblical injunction is the begining of a happy marriage. Cut off the Head, the body dies; remove the body, the head becomes useless. Such is the nature of the union of marriage. No part can function effectively without the other.

He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and the Lord will bless him abundantly.

In finding this good thing couples are advised to keep their eyes wide open, seek the face of God, before, during and after. If you chose to find a bad thing, its your business. If you find a good thing and abandon him for satan, it's also your business. Only God will listen to your petition.

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